Topic: personal essay
Marriage is a Connection of Souls
It is only a piece of paper and a few words but it is a unification of souls. It’s more than love. It is the desire to care for one another under all conditions. As couples start their life together, there is the blinding romance. Being apart is almost unbearable. Then reality sets in.
At first the little things are ignored. You’re so happy with your mate that the nighttime sounds aren’t heard. But suddenly one night you don’t go to bed at the same time as your partner. Climbing under the covers it dawns on you that your other half snores. Is that going to disturb your sleep? If your love is strong enough, you won’t even notice.
Prior to marriage, you and your mate would talk long into the night. You’ve tied the knot; did this also choke off the lines of communication? Now is the time to talk openly and freely. Did either of you have a bad day? Lean on each other for support. Talk about the day.
You’ve said your vows. Remember that sickness and health part? You probably consider sickness to mean physical maladies. But how do you handle mental and emotional issues? This is when your mate needs you the most. Once you learn your other half has an emotional problem such as the more common one of Bipolar Disorder, the first thing you do is assure your mate that it does not lessen your relationship. Then, either alone or together learn all you can so as to be prepared for how this issue can affect your partner.
Are you really ready for the sickness part? You or your partner could, because of illness become very dependent on the other. This also includes the ills associated with pregnancy. Look at all the long-term possibilities.
Getting married is serious. There will be issues that come up on both sides so be ready to deal with them. Love is not enough. It takes respect; caring and willingness to give each other needed space. Be prepared to compromise, to give in. When you’re wrong, say so. Treat your mate like you want to be treated. It may be your spouse, but your other half better be your best friend also!